Knowing When It Is Time To Leave.

I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have. I must stand with anybody that stands right, and stand with him while he is right, and part with him when he goes wrong.

-Abraham Lincoln

We grow accustom to what we consider stable or safe. Throughout our lives we are taught to find our niche, the places where we best fit in and stay there.  But if there is one thing I have learned over the years is that nothing last forever. All things, even the good eventually wither away. It is in our nature to want to feel secure, but sometimes feeling secure also means becoming complacent. Change is necessary for growth and through change we can become greater.

The word complacent is defined as “pleased, especially with oneself or one's merits, advantages, situation, etc., often without awareness of some potential danger or defect;” The key part of that definition is without awareness of some potential danger or defect. What danger does your current situation pose to you? Knowing when something has run its course in your life is something that you as an individual have to realize on his or her own. You have to learn to look at the situation and determine its worth. How do I determine the worth? The price is based on whether you are happy or whether you see yourself advancing and becoming better.  How much do you value where you are at?

 

 

If something makes you uneasy and unhappy, it might be time to reconsider your position. Don’t stay in something that makes you feel like you just cannot make it. There are countless stories of people who saw a problem and decided instead of dealing with it, they were just going on to something else. This doesn’t mean you haven’t tried, but it simply means you have realized that it is not for you. Everything that is right for others isn’t necessarily good for you. And there comes a time when you have to recognize when something will work for you and when it is simply out of your league. That doesn’t make you less of a person than anyone else but it makes you knowledgeable and aware. It was once said a man who entertains a clown becomes part of the circus. So if the circus is not meant for you….then why are you trying to join?   

Learn to simply just walk away. As you grow, you will realize that certain fights are just pointless and if you are at that stage of maturity and you can’t see that…well that’s something you need to work out. But sometimes fighting for something is not worth the energy. Why do people see the need to hold on to things, and I use the term "things" lightly, when they do nothing but lock them down. It is because they have become “comfortable” or as I said earlier they feel safe. It is time to break that cycle and open your eyes to the realization that there is something better out there for you. If something or somebody is right for you, then God will sustain and lift the both of you together! Things that are meant to be will be whether we want them that way or not. But when you have the power to make a change for the better, you better grab a hold to it. Make changes that make you happy and learn to let go when it is necessary.